September 15th, 2025

In an earlier post ( The Power of Words) I talked about how the words we use can help or harm us, and others. I talked about the energetic orientation of the words, and how we employ them can work for or against us. How changing negative statements into positive ones can help attract better or more helpful energies to us. After all, speech is spell work. The magic of our words allows us to energetically open and close doors to us and others. We can bind, bless, cast, or conjure with a simple phrase fueled by intent.
In this post I would like to discuss phatic expressions and how they affect the energies we open ourselves to. What is a phatic expressions you ask? Well, a phatic expression is one that conveys social relationships or contracts instead of factual information. We use these expressions every day in our social interactions, but perhaps we do not realize the influence they have over our energy. Certain phatic expressions can leave us open to continued energy flow between us and the person we are communicating with, even after we have stopped the interaction and moved on. Phrases like “You’re welcome” , “No problem”, or “Any time” can leave the door open for energy to keep flowing between you. They imply that your boundaries are still open and they are still “welcome” to your time and energy. Like an unspoken obligation or social contract that continuously feeds energetic cords, draining you in the give and take that is still taking place. These are phrases we probably never think twice about using. They are associated with common courtesy, politeness, and good manners, but do they do more harm than good?
We can still be polite and courteous when interacting socially without keeping ourselves open to energy draining social contracts. Using phrases like “My pleasure”, “Glad I could help”, and  “I was happy to assist you” denote an energetic end to the communication or situation while still being polite. While they don’t necessarily cut the cord (if one was created), they can stop the flow from that interaction.
This can seem like a small thing, hardly worth the time, but if you always feel drained at the end of your day (especially if you deal with the public / provide customer service for a living) it may be well worth the effort. That said, this is also good advice for your personal life as well. Cutting that constant flow / drain of energy with people you socialize or live with all the time is also important. This would be good practice along side regular cord cutting (you aren’t cutting them out, just protecting your energy and returning theirs), and shielding. I think this would be particularly helpful for empaths and energetically sensitive people, but it would be helpful for anyone.
So, how do you feel at the end of the day? Do you practice self-care when it comes to your words? Have you ever considered how these every day phrases affect you energetically? Do you think it is worth changing the way you phrase things after reading this? I would love you know.